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  1. CAH-Era04: Accidental Tech Podcast: 114: So Far, So OK

    Toaster talk at 26:45

    John reviews the “Proctor Silex Durable Toaster Oven Broiler 31116R”

    Jonathon “Song A Day” Mann’s “John Siracusa Toaster Jam”:

    Original episode description from :

    ATP T-Shirts available until Wednesday, 6 May!


    Natural disasters, Thailand, and hard drives

    Synology hard drive redundancy strategies

    Synology Hybrid Raid

    Synology DS1814 (our Synology)

    New MacBook battery life under load


    Marco on "battery outliers"


    Ridiculous Apple Watch case

    Journey soundtrack is now on vinyl and as predicted Marco is upset about it.

    WWDC Tickets

    @swilliams' awful experience

    New Photos app for Mac

    Casey's workflow


    Filing script

    Geotagging script

    Storage Pricing



    Amazon Cloud Drive

    Microsoft OneDrive


    Hypercritical #9: No iLife is an Island


    Casey makes a terrible mistake

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    This week's toaster

    Pepperidge Farm Cinnamon Swirl Bread and Melba Toast

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    —Huffduffed by livingfrisbee

  2. PW 398: Poly-mono mix « Polyamory Weekly


    September 5, 2014 at 11:26 am

    · Reply

    I’m sorry I didn’t see this sooner.

    Adopting the poly lifestyle and cultivating what that means to me is an ever-evolving process.

    And sometimes it’s exhausting!

    And sometimes I ask myself why the hell am I doing this considering I don’t feel a compelling need to be with other people.

    But the bottom line is that my husband’s brain and desires coincide with a poly lifestyle so it is necessary for me to find some common ground to give him a greater sense of fulfillment in his life.

    My only options are to leave or adjust because even though he has offered more than once to return to monogamy for me I know he would be miserable so I continue to explore for his benefit and have found many unexpected benefits for myself along the way.

    1. The most obvious pro that pops to mind is that our marriage has vastly improved.

    All the walls between us completely dropped soon after converting our relationship to poly.

    That includes walls that I did not even know existed.

    It has been incredibly freeing to suddenly be able to say anything at all without fear of how it will be taken.

    And with everything on an honest playing field he can accept those conversations and not get in a defensive mode with me.

    Our communication in other words is better than I could have ever dreamed.

    1. We are more into each other now than we were before as well.

    Stirring up the sexual pot has brought a lot of magic back to us.

    It’s not all about his other relationships or my other relationships.

    The greater benefit is the improvement to our relationship.

    1. While I don’t believe I was inhibited before I have become freer in bed with him now and it has made our sex life a lot better as a result.

    Again, it’s dropping those walls and just living in the moment.


    I have also learned new things about myself sexually that I never would have learned before and I have enjoyed beginning to explore those aspects of myself.

    He is 100% supportive and that is very cool.


    I had gotten into a deep rut before and basically thought of myself as a big blob but through meeting and chatting with new people and the increased attention from my husband I have begun to feel alive again and I feel very sexy again.

    I gotta say, that’s an awesome feeling that I wish everyone could feel!

    I’m sure if I kept thinking I would come up with others but the most important thing is hugging my husband 9 or 10 times a day and feeling so much chemistry, joy, and excitement between us.

    We are brand new to each other again.

    It’s like new relationship excitement except we also have 12 years of history and knowledge of each other that makes that feeling so much more intimate.

    I look at other couples that look miserable and I sometimes want to say, “Hey, give this a try.”


    Cons for me is a much shorter list but still very intense.


    Insecurities still come up for me occasionally but are thankfully far less common now.

    My husband and I have talked this point to death.

    I know he’s not trying to replace me.

    I know he has not taken love away from me to give some to other women.

    I know I’m his rock and he won’t give that up. Still, there are times where a cloud of despair drops down around my head and I spend hours cussing him out in my mind and saying hateful cruel things sometimes to him if he gets in my way.

    He has learned not to push me to talk when I get into a funk.

    I need time to process and then we can talk and then I will feel better.

    Our talks always are the #1 key to my recovery from that place.

    In the beginning I would sit in that despair for 3-4 days and they would come at least once a week.

    Now, 5 months later I can go 2-3 weeks with none of that and when it does come it lasts no longer than 1 day.


    The exhausting amount of self-analyzing that goes with this.

    Honestly though, I have a masters degree in marriage and family therapy and the time I spent in that program was much more draining than this is and I suspect it will get easier faster than it did in that program just as my bounce back time from despair has improved.

    I think we will “work out the kinks” (haha) much faster and then those follow-up conversations will become shorter and less painful.

    The bottom line is I am still struggling but I love the improvements to my life and I see progress on my cons list.

    I feel it’s possible I may not have a cons list one day.

    Best wishes!

    Learning to be poly is much like a roller coaster ride.

    This podcast, books, videos I’ve found on youtube and through showtime, and the More Than Two website have been my frequent saviors over the last few months.

    They all preach about communication and I have to say whatever amount you communicate now communicate more!

    It seems like there can never be too much communication.

    And in the end, it has brought my husband and I so much closer!


    —Huffduffed by livingfrisbee

  3. PW 400: Poly for introverts « Polyamory Weekly

    Tips for helping introvers and extroverts to get along

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    1:00 Announcements and Host Chat

    I’ll be at CatalystCon September 12-14 doing the opening keynote, moderating a panel on marketing for sex positive educators, signing copies of 8 Things I Wish I’d Known About Polyamory and doing a live PW cast with Reid Mihalko and Charlie Glickman!

    Oklahoma has a poly network now! And also a Facebook group, Tumblr and Twitter!

    7:30  Topic: Poly for introverts


    Dan is a cohost of the Erotic Awakenings podcast and co-producer of Beyond the Love

    dawn cohosts Erotic Awakenings, co-produces Beyond the Love and produces Kinkstarter cards to help people experiment with BDSM

    Karen is the co-leader of Poly Columbus, a poly community support group and Executive Director of the Poly Columbus Board of Directors 

    Introverts and polyamory

    11:30 What is an introvert? Does it have anything to do with shyness?

    16:00 Why do the distinctions between introverts and extroverts matter in polyamory?

    18:21 Tips for dealing with introverts?

    Don’t expect an answer immediately; allow time for a thoughtful response

    Don’t interrupt

    Don’t push introverts to become extroverted or make lots of friends

    Respect the slow burn

    Give introverts time to observe before engaging

    If you’re an external processor, remember to pause and allow silence

    Let introverts hang out together quietly

    25:25 Differentiate between social events that are important that your introverted partner attend and those that don’t matter as much to you

    26:00 Suggested introvert activities

    Family gaming night—interaction but contained

    Public family game night out—task-oriented but also semi-social and public

    Allow time for self-care, which may mean disappearing for 10 minutes during an event

    34:00 Beyond the Love

    36:05 Wrap up

    Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. And hey, why not attach an audio comment to that email?

    Check out PolyWeekly at Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!

    —Huffduffed by livingfrisbee

  4. Stop Podcasting Yourself 317 - Scott Simpson | Maximum Fun


    Stop Podcasting Yourself


    Scott Simpsons

    Scott Simpson returns to talk donating stuff, Palm Springs, and bus liars.

    Download episode 317 here. (right-click)

    Email us at "spy [at] maximumfun [dot] org" or phone us at (206) 339-8328.

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    Miniature pony in sneakers

    Natasha Henstridge


    Rue McClanahan

    Joshua Tree

    Papa Shango

    Jason Alexander's McDonalds commercial

    Whiskey stones

    Mixed Emotions

    Gilmore Grandparents

    Egghead Discount Software

    —Huffduffed by livingfrisbee

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