Created in adversity, against all odds, and finished yesterday in the ICU of a major hospital.
The second Trystan spotted John, a pink-haired guy in a black bandana, he was smitten. For a year, Trystan and John spent their weekends clubbing, partying in Vegas, and making out on the beach.
Then, one Friday, John got a call.
It was a social worker. She said that she’d be putting John’s sister’s two young children into foster care at the end of the weekend. Unless, of course, John took them.
So John and Trystan got in the car and drove to the sister’s house. And John gave Trystan that two-hour drive to decide whether or not he was ready to commit to becoming a dad.
This is this story of a couple of twenty-somethings going to court against family to become the legal guardians of two children in desperate need of a safe home. (Hint: extra hard when you are gay.) This is also a super romantic love story. Side note: Trystan is trans, which adds a whole other interesting element to the episode. Tune in to hear all of the surprising details. For now, some pictures of Trystan and John’s life with the kids:
Toenail painting is a favorite pasttime in Trystan and John’s householdRiley, the older child, adjusting to his new life
Trystan and John’s weddingTrystan, John + the kids in their wedding shoes
P.S. We’re going to be following up with John in a couple of episodes!
UPDATE: John’s story is now up! Listen here.
Resources for Raising Kids in a Nontraditional Family
Trystan says he’s found the Facebook group Aunts and Uncles Raising Nieces and Nephews to be an invaluable resource.
He also has enjoyed reading the blog Papa Bear, about a trans dad giving birth—something he is considering in the future.
We asked our own LGBTQ listeners what trans-parenting resources they like, and they answer was, “Well, there’s not a lot.” We did, however, get a lot of recommendations for S. Bear Bergman’s books, especially Blood, Marriage, Wine, & Glitter. People also like the books Trans Bodies, Trans Selves by Laura Erickson-Schroth and The Argonauts by Maggie Nelson. And the website It’s Conceivable Now.
Do YOU have a nontraditional family?
Tell your story in the comments! Share your favorite resources! It’ll help other people feel less alone.
Top photo: Lisa Yagoda
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A man gives up the keys to his Cadillac Deville. A woman shares her secret concoction to relieve arthritis pain. Down the hall, two octogenarians meet, court and decide to get married. A group of residents of The Presbyterian Home in Evanston, Illinois use tape recorders to document their lives in retirement.
Thanks to Eleanor Erickson, Joe Peine, Dev and Betty Appleyard, and newlyweds Evelyn Jo Johnson and John Beierwaltes for sharing their stories and their audio diaries. The music was performed by Presbyterian Home residents George Stamm, Claude Metzler, and the monthly Presbyterian Home singalong group.
Over the last few months, we’ve been busy raising capital, hiring employees, launching shows, building a studio, and getting this business off the ground. But a few weeks ago, pretty much overnight, everything changed.
During the holidays, while Alex was out of town, the workload became overwhelming, and Gimlet learned its first lessons about startup burnout.
But it wouldn’t be a StartUp episode if that burnout wasn’t documented. While Alex is away, a new Gimlet employee picks up a recorder and captures the fallout on tape.
Thanks to everyone who took our audience survey last week. To see the results, follow this link: https://hearstartup.typeform.com/report/ofUGcO/wheU
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The special ad music, Microliters, was written and performed by Build Buildings.
Other music in this episode:
Anders Mörlin – The Burnout
Quantic Soul Orchestra – Los Olvidados
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44. Entire “Charles Manson’s Hollywood” series, highlighting “Charles Manson’s Hollywood Part 3: The Beach Boys, Dennis Wilson, and Manson the Songwriter” by You Must Remember This
Show Notes:Welcome to our new season! This series will run a total of 11 weeks (I think; I’m still researching and writing) and will touch on topics as disparate as Doris Day and Michaelangelo Antonioni, Pet Sounds and Pink Flamingos. I became interested in these stories about a year ago, when I somehow found myself reading the obituary of Terry Melcher. Melcher had a really full Hollywood life, which we’ll talk about in one of these episodes, but the headline is that he was born to a teenage Doris Day, and 27 years later he became convinced he was the person the Manson family were really looking for the night they massacred everyone at Sharon Tate’s house. I knew Day and Melcher’s stories were enough to fill at least one episode; as I began researching Melcher’s connection to Manson, many, many other Hollywood stories began to emerge. I realized the story of Charles Manson and the murders he is responsible is really (or, also) the story of Hollywood and its mythology draining of hope, and I wanted to tell that story.This should probably be obvious given the subject matter, but every single episode of this season is going to contain content and language that will probably be offensive to someone. Apologies in advance.Bibliography:The foundational text of this series is Jeff Guinn’s recent biography Manson: The Life and Times of Charles Manson, which I read in long stretches late at night when I was supposed to be on vacation. I couldn’t put it down to go to sleep, partially because I would have nightmares every time I tried. Here are some other books that I read or re-read to prepare myself generally for this season. I’ll make note of additional/specific sources as we go along:Manson: The Unholy Trail of Charlie and the Family by John Gilmore (This book was previously published as The Garbage People, a much better title, I think) Waiting For the Sun: A Rock n’ Roll History of Los Angeles by Barney HoskynsEasy Riders, Raging Bulls by Peter BiskindPictures at a Revolution: Five Movies and the Birth of the New Hollywood by Mark HarrisWeird Scenes Inside The Canyon: Laurel Canyon, Covert Ops & The Dark Heart Of The Hippie Dream by Dave McGowanShadows and Light: Journeys with Outlaws in Revolutionary Hollywood by Gary Kent Discography:The Last Ones by JahzzarStormy Moods Orchestra by Apache TomcatScubba Adventure by Apache TomcatAlabama Song by The DoorsAlabama Song by Bertolt BrechtBeware of the Fall by Apache TomkatAu coin de la rue by Marco RaaphorstPrivate Hurricane (Instrumental) by Josh WoodwardDivider by Chris ZabriskieDevastation and Revenge by Kevin MacLeodHelter Skelter by The Beatles
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Warning: This program contains explicit language and addresses adult topics and themes - including sex and drug use.
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Lionel Shriver joins Deborah Treisman to read and discuss T. C. Boyle’s “Chicxulub,” from a 2004 issue of the magazine.
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