There are no people in GretaUpOnGame’s collective.

Huffduffed (13)

  1. Mindset Matters: Productive Attitudes |The Productive Woman

    TPW108 Laura McClellan

    September 21, 2016

    Productivity isn’t only about using the right tools and techniques; it’s also about having the right mindset. Our attitudes can make all the difference in our productivity. This episode addresses some attitudes that can help you in your efforts to be more productive.

    productive attitudes can make a difference

    Attitudes that make a productive difference Awareness The first step to progress is awareness of where we are right now. For example, to increase your awareness about how you use your time, consider time tracking during the day for a week so you can monitor what you’re doing and how much time you spend on each activity. Ask yourself if you are on auto-pilot or if you are mindful of each task you are doing.

    We also want to strive to be aware of the results of our actions. Are the things we are doing getting us the results we want? Life is the result of the choices we make.

    Are you willing to change your actions to get the results you want?”

    In addition to being aware of our time, tasks, and results, we want to be fully aware of who we really are. As humans, we are able to persuade ourselves of things that aren’t true and we can be self-deceived about who we are and what we want. We should practice mindfulness — also known as a non-judgmental observation.

    Action Item: Consider journaling as a means to become more aware. Ask yourself, “What did I do today?” and “How did I feel today?” Record your thoughts and feelings, not to judge, but just as a friendly observer, gathering information you can use to align your choices with your values.

    Intentionality One online dictionary defines intentional as “done in a way that is planned or intended.” Intentionality is about having (and knowing) the “why” behind what you do. I love what one writer said: “Intentional living is about knowing why you do what you do and why you don’t do what you don’t do.”

    The opposite of living with intention is to just drift through life. A truly productive woman is one who orders her life in such a way as to maximize her positive impact on the world around her–by definition that requires intention and purpose. We choose to live and we decide how we want to live. Living on purpose, with purpose.

    Intentionality is about having, and knowing, the why behind what you do.”

    We shouldn’t feel like we need to fill each hour with being “productive.” We can choose quiet hours and downtime to connect with loved ones or to recharge. Every activity, including inactivity, should be intentional and targeted toward a goal or a guiding principle you’ve chosen for yourself.

    In order to make progress, we should set goals, but we want to make sure that our goals are intentional and chosen by us, for us. Our short-term goals should move us in an intentional direction toward something we are trying to accomplish.

    Action Item: This week, before you take an action, pause, close your eyes and ask yourself why you are doing it. Remind yourself of the intention behind your action, so you can remember why you are doing it.

    Compassion Compassion is a necessary attitude for us to cultivate in order to live a truly productive life. It is a profoundly human emotion with important consequences. It impacts how we work with others and how others work with us. Studies point to an “epidemic” of workplace anxiety, stress, and depression that costs American businesses billions of dollars every year in lost productivity and medical bills (Check out this article on The studies cited in the article also show that positive social interactions at work actually improve our physical health.

    When we help others it stimulates the reward center in our brain. Emma Seppala, Ph.D., science director at Stanford University’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research, has said, “The best-kept secret to happiness is to be of service to others.” (For more from Dr. Seppala, check out her book: The Happiness Track: How to Apply the Science of Happiness to Accelerate Your Success – I’ve added it to my TBR list; see also her excellent article on “The Best Kept Secrets to Exceptional Productivity” on her website.)

    Not only should you be compassionate toward others, but you should be compassionate toward yourself. When we make mistakes, we need to realize that we can try again and not beat ourself up over it. Self-compassion will help us to be more happy, more productive, and therefore, more successful. (Science backs this up.) People who feel secure and worthy are more productive. Critical self-talk is counterproductive and keeps us from reaching our goals. (Check out Self-Compassion, by Kristin Neff, Ph.D.)

    We need to learn to have our own back when things go wrong.”

    Failure is not what discourages us from trying. It’s what we make failure mean and what we do to ourself when we fail. Another study found “people prone to procrastination had lower levels of self-compassion and higher levels of stress.”

    Check out this interesting infographic on the Scientific Benefits of Self-Compassion from Dr. Seppala’s website.

    Action Item: The next time something goes wrong, try writing yourself a letter showing compassion, just like you would write to a dear friend.

    Self-Determination If we believe that life is something that happens to us, rather than something we create, we are unlikely to be truly productive. The attitude of passive resignation can result in inactivity as we look outside ourself for the cause of everything in our life that we don’t like. Choosing not to choose is still a choice.

    Remember that while you can’t control other people’s actions or situations around you, you can control how you react to them. By controlling your thoughts, you control your emotions, which puts you in a position to take charge of your actions. Your actions then lead to results. Learning to believe that you create your own life is a key to true productivity.

    Action Item: This week, pay attention to how often you find yourself blaming an “outside” person or circumstance for something in your life that you don’t like. Consider how your choice affects the results in your relationship or situation.

    Action Item: Combine awareness and self-determination: Ask yourself, “What is something I really want to experience or accomplish? What do I need to do to make that happen?” Make a choice today to work toward that goal.

    Gratitude People who are more grateful are happier and happier people are more productive. Studies show that giving and receiving gratitude releases dopamine in your brain which increases energy levels.

    Gratitude is a function of attention.”

    Many behavioral experts recommend keeping a gratitude journal, as it has been proven to improve health, strengthen relationships, improve sleep, decrease illness, and reduce anxiety and depression (there’ve been tons of studies about this!). Keeping a journal puts you in the habit of looking for things to be grateful for. If you look for things to be grateful for each day, you will find them.

    Grateful people are happier, and happier people are more productive.”

    In addition to a gratitude journal, we can also implement other small gratitude practices such as pausing when you are at a stoplight and looking for something that brings you joy, whether it be a cool breeze or a beautiful sunset. Let yourself feel that gratitude.

    You can also practice gratitude by looking someone in the eye, like a store clerk, and expressing a sincere “thank you.”

    Recommended reading for some other ideas about how to exercise your “gratitude muscle”:

    “20 Ways Gratitude Improves Productivity” “5 Reasons Gratitude is Good for You” Action Item: You can start a gratitude journal today if you don’t already have one. Every day, write down at least one thing you are grateful for. You can write it on a big piece of paper where everyone can see it or in a private journal or in your phone.

    —Huffduffed by GretaUpOnGame

  2. DiaCast/OakHills: God is Just, Not Fair | Jennifer Rothschild

    Jul 23, 2014

    The Parable of the Workers in the Vineyard; "For the Kingdom of Heaven is like the landowner who went out early one morning to hire workers for his vineyard. He agreed to pay the normal daily wage and sent them out to work…" God is Just, fortunately, God is not always fair from our perspective. Matthew 20:1-16

    DiaCast "the Best of the Best Sermons" for more materials, info, search features, and to submit your own personal testimony go to

    Original video:
    Downloaded by on Thu Oct 22 01:08:40 2020 Available for 30 days after download

    —Huffduffed by GretaUpOnGame

  3. Give yourself permission to be creative | Ethan Hawke

    Visit to get our entire library of TED Talks, transcripts, translations, personalized talk recommendations and more.

    Reflecting on moments that shaped his life, actor Ethan Hawke examines how courageous expression promotes healing and connection with one another — and invites you to discover your own unabashed creativity. "There is no path till you walk it," he says.

    The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world’s leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design — plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. You’re welcome to link to or embed these videos, forward them to others and share these ideas with people you know. For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), submit a Media Request here:

    Follow TED on Twitter: Like TED on Facebook:

    Subscribe to our channel:

    Original video:
    Downloaded by on Sat Oct 3 11:20:23 2020 Available for 30 days after download


    Tagged with ted

    —Huffduffed by GretaUpOnGame

  4. When You Know Better, You Do Better | Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversations

    July 24, 2019

    Maya Angelou once told Oprah, "When you know better, you do better." Oprah underscores this message with insightful stories from her own life and from those of Oprah Winfrey Show guests who learned from the mistakes they made. Oprah shares that she has empathy for other people’s mistakes because she’s made her own. Her message is, "It’s never too late to change." Oprah also talks candidly about a 1988 episode with racist skinheads that forever changed the course of The Oprah Winfrey Show. Oprah reflects on the importance of taking responsibility for the energy you put into the world.

    —Huffduffed by GretaUpOnGame

  5. The Best Relationship Advice | Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversations

    July 29, 2019

    Oprah talks about the life-changing advice she received from her mentor Dr. Maya Angelou—"When someone tells you who they are, believe them"—and shares how she learned this lesson the hard way. Oprah also recalls teaming up with Dr. Phil to help engaged couple Angela and Eric confront mistrust and infidelity in their relationship. Then, Oprah revisits her interview with Dina McGreevey, ex-wife of former New Jersey Governor Jim McGreevey, who resigned from office after admitting to an affair with a man. Dina shares the secrets and signs of deception she missed in their marriage.

    —Huffduffed by GretaUpOnGame

  6. No One Can MAKE You Upset | Daily Stoic

    June 10, 2020.

    These are strange times. We all have entrenched political beliefs, for which the stakes seem dreadfully high. There are trolls everywhere. There are stupid people everywhere. Both the trolls and the ignorant seem to revel in saying things designed to piss us off. And if that weren’t enough, most of us are spending extended and unprecedented amounts of time trapped inside with people whom we may love but still have the ability to make us upset.

    Or actually, is that true? Can they make us upset? Not according to the Stoics.

    “If someone succeeds in provoking you,” Epictetus said, “realize that your mind is complicit in the provocation.”

    He meant that whatever the other person did is on them. Whatever your reaction is to their remark or action, that’s on you. No one can make you angry, only you have that power. Someone can certainly say something offensive or stupid or mean, but no one can make you upset—that’s a choice.

    This is worth remembering always (it’s also a theme we talked about in our recent podcast with Robert Greene where he discussed why people—on the left and right—are so easily triggered when they hear things they disagree with). You shouldn’t give away your power over yourself. You shouldn’t let others bait you. You shouldn’t allow yourself to be provoked. But most of all, you can’t blame them if that happens.

    Because you control you, nobody else.

    —Huffduffed by GretaUpOnGame

  7. Genuine Acceptance - Tara Brach

    Our capacity to accept this life is key to our freedom, yet there are many misconceptions about acceptance: People wonder, if acceptance makes us a doormat in relationships? Isn’t acceptance akin to resignation? Doesn’t it make us passive when what is needed is action? This talk explores some of the misunderstandings about acceptance and offers teachings on the nature of genuine and liberating acceptance.

    Podcast: Play in new window | Download (Duration: 47:39 — 21.8MB)Subscribe: iTunes | Android | RSS

    Related PostsGenuine AcceptanceAceptacion GenuinaCultivating Equanimity (Duck Meditation)Committing to JoyStress and Our Evolving ConsciousnessCultivating Compassion

    —Huffduffed by GretaUpOnGame

  8. We don’t just feel emotions. We make them.| THE EZRA KLEIN SHOW

    17 OCT 2019 ·

    How do you feel right now? Excited to listen to your favorite podcast? Anxious about the state of American politics? Annoyed by my use of rhetorical questions? These questions seem pretty straightforward. But as my guest today, psychologist Lisa Feldman Barrett, points out there is a lot more to emotion than meets the mind.

    Barrett is a superstar in her field. She’s a professor of psychology at Northeastern University, holds appointments at Harvard Medical School and Massachusetts General Hospital, and has received various prestigious awards for her pioneering research on emotion. Her most recent book How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain argues that emotions are not biologically hardwired into our brains but constructed by our minds. In other words, we don’t merely feel emotions — we actively create them.

    Barrett’s work has potentially radical implications. If we take her theory seriously, it follows that the ways we think about our daily emotional states, diagnose illnesses, interact with friends, raise our children, and experience reality all need some serious adjusting, if not complete rethinking.

    If you enjoyed this episode, you should check out: * A mind-expanding conversation with Michael Pollan * The cognitive cost of poverty (with Sendhil Mullainathan) * Will Storr on why you are not yourself * A mind-bending, reality-warping conversation with John Higgs

    Book recommendations: * Naming the Mind by Kurt Danzinger * The Island of Knowledge by Marcelo Gleiser * The Accidental Species by Henry Gee * Sense and Nonsense by Kevin L. Laland

    Want to contact the show? Reach out at


    Tagged with emotions

    —Huffduffed by GretaUpOnGame

  9. No One Can Trigger You | Daily Stoic

    August 18, 2020

    There are things that just set you off. There are things that happened to you that you prefer not to think about. There are the things you asked repeatedly for someone to stop. There are the things that decent people are not supposed to do and say.

    And yet they happen anyway.

    So you get upset. You get triggered.

    Although not ideal, it is at least understandable. We should be patient with other people when they are triggered, we should be patient with ourselves when we are (as Marcus said, what matters when you fall or fail is to revert back to the training that you know and understand that you’re a human being).

    The problem is this extra thing we’ve started doing these days: Blaming other people for triggering us. Expecting the world to label every potential frustrating thought or idea with a trigger warning. That’s not reasonable, right, or fair.

    The Stoics knew that other people can’t trigger us. We can only allow ourselves to be triggered. As Epictetus said, we are complicit in the offenses we take. Our temper is ours to lose—no one can take it from us and certainly no one can make us lose it.

    We have the power. We’ll have far more luck and happiness in this life if we spend our time strengthening it than we ever will trying to soften the world. One is a form of protection that’s up to us, the other is a fantasy and a projection.

    Which will you choose?

    —Huffduffed by GretaUpOnGame

Page 1 of 2Older